There are times when a situation or a person affects us so much that we have a certain urge to respond to it. With autism on the rise in recent years, we often come across children suffering from the condition – but coming out shining nonetheless! Many people judge children (or even adults) with autism quite harshly. There have been many incidents of other parents writing rude letters to mothers of autistic children, calling them a nuisance.
But then there are some people who understand why a child may behave in a certain way, and offer assistance and support – which is the right way of going about this. You must know that people who have autistic children lead extremely challenging lives. There is no need to make it even more difficult for them by labeling their children inappropriately. Remember, that any child can be born with limitations – even your own. So it pays to be kind to someone with a condition that they cannot help having.
If you have found yourself in a situation where you would like to tell the mother of an autistic child that you appreciate her challenges and the way she handles them, write to her. Your letter should be kind and supportive, detailing what made you reach out to her. If you already know the mother, it shouldn’t be an issue – if you don’t you can take ideas from the following letter sample:
December 2, 2016
Ms. Marylyn Forbes
734 Centre Avenue
Spearfish, SD 19388
Dear. Ms. Forbes:
Invading your privacy is not the intention behind writing this letter. I often see you bring your daughter to the park on 5the Avenue, and have taken the liberty of finding out where you live so that I can reach out to you. As a fellow “autism mommy”, I cannot help but admire the way you have brought up your daughter, and appreciate the many struggles that you must have gone through over the years.
I wish I was half as brave as you are. Knowing that your child’s mood will dictate the rest of the day can be quite tiresome. But I do not see you cowering under the threat. In you, I see what I want to be – how I want to react to the special circumstances my own son is in. It is obvious that your daughter is a well-behaved and intelligent child despite her circumstances, and I believe that you are responsible for it completely.
If there is any way we can be friends – and our children too – I would welcome some positive company. Thank you for showing me that despite their circumstances, our children can become wonderfully important parts of the “normal” society.
Amanda Rose Carrey
76 Event Road
Spearfish, SD 88827
Tel: (555) 555-5555